tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post1216259340424513133..comments2024-03-27T21:17:37.833-07:00Comments on Titere con Bonete: Raising a BoyAliciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-78123763665884412522012-09-23T14:03:07.299-07:002012-09-23T14:03:07.299-07:00I admire your frankness. ADHD is quite a common co...I admire your frankness. ADHD is quite a common condition. Ritalin has improved throughout the years and parents have become less reluctant to give it to their child. That's wonderful that your son has found the way to succeed in life without the medication.DUTAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12979375799258978432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-53911573122331339352012-09-16T20:42:20.166-07:002012-09-16T20:42:20.166-07:00Oh my sissy! You are a remarkable, strong, awe ins...Oh my sissy! You are a remarkable, strong, awe inspiring women. I am proud to call you my sister. I am humbled.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03312115717842767420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-4936480263952158892012-09-09T13:52:06.718-07:002012-09-09T13:52:06.718-07:00Wow, that has been a tough journey for you. Very ...Wow, that has been a tough journey for you. Very tough decision for you all.Suburban Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16135537886717771317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-78788907490606274762012-09-07T17:50:52.456-07:002012-09-07T17:50:52.456-07:00Hi Alicia! It sounds like you did the best you cou...Hi Alicia! It sounds like you did the best you could with your son. I'm sure it was so hard on you being alone and trying to figure out what needed to be don. I'm so thankful to know your son is doing good now.<br />I admire you and the sharing of your heart.<br />Thank you for popping in to see me.<br />Be a sweetie,<br />shelia ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-43622886879746848002012-09-07T09:33:28.087-07:002012-09-07T09:33:28.087-07:00You did the best you could have under the circumst...You did the best you could have under the circumstances. Glad you son is doing well now. The book, January First looks fascinating.Diane AZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02304549124035767882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-17141889858062854442012-09-07T09:16:12.464-07:002012-09-07T09:16:12.464-07:00Parenting can be such a hard journey. I think may...Parenting can be such a hard journey. I think maybe we are ingrained to doubt ourselves such to make sure we actually have put some thought into what we do. I too have a very strong willed child, she's only five. Our journey is getting easier and we are fortunate (I guess?) in that she rarely shows her difficult side to those outside our close knit community we have built around her. It sounds to me like you did what you had to do. Charhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16397271859469210397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-12325815992899473432012-09-06T20:29:25.915-07:002012-09-06T20:29:25.915-07:00Thank you Lisa, I appreciate your words :)Thank you Lisa, I appreciate your words :)Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-15024697226392896902012-09-06T20:29:02.882-07:002012-09-06T20:29:02.882-07:00Thank you! He had his good moments too. Fortunatel...Thank you! He had his good moments too. Fortunately now that he is 25 years old I don't see even a glimpse of ADHD.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-42622429047106813332012-09-06T20:20:37.420-07:002012-09-06T20:20:37.420-07:00I think it's the fact that we are medicating c...I think it's the fact that we are medicating children that bothers people. Adults take meds for hundreds of diseases and no one bats an eye. If it helps you son then you have to do what you have to do. I hope for the best for you and your son and I know that no matter what he has a wonderful, supportive mother.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-38126408969188759212012-09-06T20:18:57.608-07:002012-09-06T20:18:57.608-07:00I can certainly understand that. My son who is now...I can certainly understand that. My son who is now 25 worries that when he had kids they will have the same problems he did. All we can do is hope for the best.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-18579954267630717552012-09-06T20:18:28.774-07:002012-09-06T20:18:28.774-07:00You did your best to protect him, which is your jo...You did your best to protect him, which is your job as a mom. You also allowed him to choose when he was ready to take control. I'm sure that was not an easy decision, either. Glad your son is doing well.Lisa Hannemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04861341862784698692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-22018842487947389542012-09-06T20:18:00.032-07:002012-09-06T20:18:00.032-07:00He did, it was hard to watch him struggle, but he ...He did, it was hard to watch him struggle, but he had lots of support from family and friends.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-40062079507588871502012-09-06T20:17:26.579-07:002012-09-06T20:17:26.579-07:00Thanks Kim, I certainly tried my best. It's no...Thanks Kim, I certainly tried my best. It's not easy being a parent.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-70847940964150793832012-09-06T15:34:20.220-07:002012-09-06T15:34:20.220-07:00Your post really resonated with me. I medicated m...Your post really resonated with me. I medicated my son for a time, and your son's face in the Ritalin pic reminds me of how mine looked too. I'm so glad that he is learning to cope on his own, and in his words, 'force himself to be good.' You did all the right things. Some Suburban Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13908478478292293915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-12803632328214865952012-09-06T12:41:43.200-07:002012-09-06T12:41:43.200-07:00Alicia - thanks for telling us the story about you...Alicia - thanks for telling us the story about your son. How scary for you that he was 5 miles away from the Wendy's and crossing a highway! That is a strong-willed boy.<br /><br />My son was recently diagnosed with ADHD, and I wonder all the time if I made the right decision to agree to meds (he is on a non-stimulant at this point). What makes me feel better is knowing that, no matter what, I am here for my son.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-60248158371505619512012-09-06T11:21:55.962-07:002012-09-06T11:21:55.962-07:00I have a mental illness and I worry everyday that ...I have a mental illness and I worry everyday that I may pass it along to my sons, through genetics. Your story has a happy ending!Pamela Goldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828671725848167955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-75299979064849055532012-09-06T11:05:03.480-07:002012-09-06T11:05:03.480-07:00It sounds like you son made an amazing choice to t...It sounds like you son made an amazing choice to take control!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-44306932250891230022012-09-05T22:48:30.027-07:002012-09-05T22:48:30.027-07:00Alicia, it sounds like you did what you thought wa...Alicia, it sounds like you did what you thought was best at the time. Thien-Kim aka Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00944429273741512796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-77582123806947703532012-09-05T19:28:07.011-07:002012-09-05T19:28:07.011-07:00Well stated Alicia. I am glad that you shared the...Well stated Alicia. I am glad that you shared the post with your kids prior to posting. <br /><br />You mentioned military school. Boarding schools! What an abysmal creation! Children should be home with a loving parent or parents. I could not imagine shipping a child off to a boarding school like he or she is some damned commodity to be dealt with in the most efficient manner. Sextanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02869179401767968180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-35771666410528792682012-09-05T12:55:59.247-07:002012-09-05T12:55:59.247-07:00Jodifur! I love that expression. I'm going to ...Jodifur! I love that expression. I'm going to use that definitely ALOT! Thanks for sharing that!Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-24186377446137192002012-09-05T12:55:09.497-07:002012-09-05T12:55:09.497-07:00Sextant – Excellent comment! You make some great p...Sextant – Excellent comment! You make some great points. Boys aren’t as likely to want to please a teacher, so that can make the classroom environment difficult for them if they have to share it with girls. Girls, by their very nature, want to please; their parents, their teachers, their friends and later their husbands.<br /><br />I too do not like the idea of separate schools for boys and girls, there is too much they need to learn about each other to segregate them like that, but it does have its benefits as well. Perhaps my son would have benefited from being in an all boys school where he was surrounded by boys as rowdy and rambunctious as he was. And although he was threatened by his dad many times to be shipped off to military school, it didn’t come to pass, fortunately for me as I would have died without my son!<br /><br />“They should medicate old retired guys with amphetamines to prevent excessive gabbiness when commenting.”…hahaha! You could put that on a bumper sticker and make millions! Maybe just the “they should medicate old retired guys” part. You always crack me up!<br /><br />Thank you for your kind words about my post. It was difficult to write and before I posted it I sat both my children down and read it to them and we began to reminisce about other things I could put into the post…we could write a book about the adventures this boy put us through as a family! Not to mention the fact that my daughter was often neglected and had no choice but to be the “good girl” the “normal one” because there was no energy left for her. It was a tough time for all of us and we still carry the scars, some of which still ooze blood and pain at times.<br /><br />If my post helps someone, then putting it all out there is its own reward. I’m proud of both my kids and I would never want them to think that all we went through as a family is something they should be embarrassed or ashamed about, but it would have been wonderful if they had come with instruction manuals, which would have made it all so much easier!<br />Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-35131529535877457282012-09-05T12:33:25.073-07:002012-09-05T12:33:25.073-07:00Thanks Amy!I imagine it must have been difficult f...Thanks Amy!I imagine it must have been difficult for your mom, it's not easy raising a normal boy, let alone a difficult one. Luckily for me my son didn't have learning disabilities, other than the lack of concentration and math...but of course I suck at math too, so we can't blame that on being a difficult boy :)Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-64607117341067111902012-09-05T12:31:21.090-07:002012-09-05T12:31:21.090-07:00I fought the school tooth and nail to get them to ...I fought the school tooth and nail to get them to treat him the same as the other children, finally I had to enroll him in a private school which really helped but trust me...was tough for a single mother who had no help or support from the father.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-73088550560409200782012-09-05T12:28:42.946-07:002012-09-05T12:28:42.946-07:00JarieLyn - I know I did the best I could but it...JarieLyn - I know I did the best I could but it's only human to second guess ourselves. Would he have been better off if I had stayed with his dad? Will the meds affect his health in the future? One never knows and I will always wonder. But regardless he had and still has a mother that loves him more than life itself and I will always be his greatest advocate, friend and cheerleader.<br /><br />I'm happy to say that he's doing fine and I'm hoping he always continue to do so. Thanks for reading and commenting!Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196096131750922174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4567723504977931374.post-70856430298462330272012-09-05T11:35:33.202-07:002012-09-05T11:35:33.202-07:00One of my favorite expressions is "we do the ...One of my favorite expressions is "we do the best we can, and when we know better, we do better." You did the best for your son. Don't beat yourself up.jodifurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02436403330073542241noreply@blogger.com